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Nobody Told Me It Could Feel Lonely…

September 11, 2016

Being a stay-at-home mom is both a blessing & a privilege.
It is my greatest work everyday. I wouldn’t change being at home with my boys for anything. However, did anyone ever tell you how lonely being a stay-at-home mom could feel sometimes?

Nobody told me.
There are days that I barley speak to another adult (other than my husband, or the cashier at the grocery store). Sometimes I almost forget to turn off the “baby talk!” When I do get to speak to another adult, I feel… invigorated. Mostly that’s talking to my personal trainer 3 days per week, but hey, it’s great, I’ll take it! Oh, then when I finally have a lunch with a girlfriend or my sister, I’m over the moon happy!

The point is…We as mother’s can’t feel guilty for feeling lonely, or wanting something more. That’s a big reason I started blogging. To feel connected to other women and to have a creative outlet. I also love working out now – go figure! I’ve been consistent with my fitness since February, and got a personal trainer in April. Working out is my therapy. We need to disconnect from our home life for just a little while. We need that “me time,” or girls night out, or a weekly date night.
Isn’t it funny that I have been a mother for 3 1/2 years, and I’m still trying to find myself? I think I go through stages where the “loneliness” doesn’t bother me at all. It’s probably because I’m on mom auto-piolet mode. You know, just when things are so busy I don’t really have time to think. But then other times, the feeling of loneliness sets in. I know some of you may think, “oh come on! how can you be lonely when you’re around your kids all day?” Well, it’s not that kind of lonely. Like I said, I love being a stay-at-home-mom. It’s just about missing the connection with other adults regularly. Think about it…pre-kids, I was here, there, everywhere! Traveling, going out & meeting people all the time, going to parties & events…it was schmooze – central for me, hahaha! I’m a people person & I miss that. After being blessed with beautiful little humans in my life, I think I just lost myself a little bit. And I can’t forget that by taking care of myself physically, mentally & emotionally ultimately helps all of us. It helps me be a better mom, wife & friend.

If you feel the same way, I just wanted you to know that you’re not alone. It’s perfectly normal. I’m here to tell you: Nobody told me being a #SAHM could feel lonely, but it can, and it does sometimes. So there…I told you.

Try to get involved with projects, or your kids’ school, call your bestie and plan a weekly lunch, or maybe start a fitness routine. Anything to help you disconnect and regroup.
I just have to figure out my balance. But I’m hopeful that one day there will be a happy & healthy balance between home, kids, relationships & social life! That exists right?!

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Reflecting on life with 2 toddler boys

July 25, 2016

Now that my littlest will be turning 2 in just a few short weeks, has got me thinking a lot about being a mommy to these two loves of my life.♥mom, motherhood, toddler, toddlers, kids, parents

{ L→R: Mason, Liam }

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{ Baby Mason turning 2 on August 21st! }

I’ve been thinking a lot about my job as a mom lately… These sort of thoughts/questions have crossed my mind, like:
How am I doing thus far with these two?
What could I do to be a better parent?
Gosh, how time is just flying by!
What am I cooking for dinner?
Liam starting pre-k in a few weeks….whaaaat!?
How am I going to handle the first day, or even first week of pre-k?!
What new memories should we, as a family be making?
How will I schedule my days with one child in school now?
How could I make my time with Mason special while his brother is in school?
Am I ready for baby #3? Yes, I said THREE!!
I’m so tired.
I need a manicure. ha-ha!
How can I manage my time better?


Ok… so that list should give you an idea of the GAZILLION thoughts running through my head everyday.

First off, I feel like I’ve been thinking this way mostly because I’m coming into a new chapter in my life: Mason turning 2 & Liam starting school. Both are BIG to me!
I know most moms have these similar thoughts too. As a stay-at-home-mom { #SAHM }, I think I can be pretty critical of myself. Am I doing enough? Am I doing too much? Should I just leave all that mess in the kitchen and worry about it later? Should I take a shower now or later? Did I read, play or laugh enough with the kids today?
Was I too impatient? Did I lose my cool too much? How come Liam keeps hitting his brother? Am I doing time-outs correctly?

Obviously there’s no perfect guide to parenting book, otherwise I’d be all over it (all parents would). Everyday is different. Everyday is a struggle. Someday’s are great + someday’s are…well, just crappy! Even with help during the week.
I know all I can do is my best, bust sometimes let’s face it, my best feels like, WTF AM I DOING?!IMG_7443

And then you factor in that I’m trying to keep up with my fitness, look half way decent for my husband, cook dinner and everything else that goes in to keeping a marriage happy & a house a home. And of course that precious little thing called ALONE TIME. You remember, the time you can have to do whatever the hell you want! Every mother I’m sure can relate.

As a parent you get certain things down. And the rest of the time you’re just flying by the seat of your pants – haha!IMG_7261

{ Mother’s Day 2016. My hubby Anthony, me & the boys♥ }

So long as my kids are healthy + happy, I will keep trying my best, (even when my best isn’t good enough). Parenting is the greatest challenge EVER, but with the best kind of reward. These beautiful, perfect little humans you created will one day function in society as kind, polite, generous, smart, capable people. I learn so much about myself as the days, weeks, and years pass as a mom than ever before. What else can I really do? Just take it day-by-day. Remember to take little snap shots in my head and store those memories away. Take the challenges as they come. And pray I (we) don’t mess up too badly along the way! IMG_8043IMG_7744IMG_7848

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