Being a stay-at-home mom is both a blessing & a privilege.
It is my greatest work everyday. I wouldn’t change being at home with my boys for anything. However, did anyone ever tell you how lonely being a stay-at-home mom could feel sometimes?
Nobody told me.
There are days that I barley speak to another adult (other than my husband, or the cashier at the grocery store). Sometimes I almost forget to turn off the “baby talk!” When I do get to speak to another adult, I feel… invigorated. Mostly that’s talking to my personal trainer 3 days per week, but hey, it’s great, I’ll take it! Oh, then when I finally have a lunch with a girlfriend or my sister, I’m over the moon happy!
The point is…We as mother’s can’t feel guilty for feeling lonely, or wanting something more. That’s a big reason I started blogging. To feel connected to other women and to have a creative outlet. I also love working out now – go figure! I’ve been consistent with my fitness since February, and got a personal trainer in April. Working out is my therapy. We need to disconnect from our home life for just a little while. We need that “me time,” or girls night out, or a weekly date night.
Isn’t it funny that I have been a mother for 3 1/2 years, and I’m still trying to find myself? I think I go through stages where the “loneliness” doesn’t bother me at all. It’s probably because I’m on mom auto-piolet mode. You know, just when things are so busy I don’t really have time to think. But then other times, the feeling of loneliness sets in. I know some of you may think, “oh come on! how can you be lonely when you’re around your kids all day?” Well, it’s not that kind of lonely. Like I said, I love being a stay-at-home-mom. It’s just about missing the connection with other adults regularly. Think about it…pre-kids, I was here, there, everywhere! Traveling, going out & meeting people all the time, going to parties & events…it was schmooze – central for me, hahaha! I’m a people person & I miss that. After being blessed with beautiful little humans in my life, I think I just lost myself a little bit. And I can’t forget that by taking care of myself physically, mentally & emotionally ultimately helps all of us. It helps me be a better mom, wife & friend.
If you feel the same way, I just wanted you to know that you’re not alone. It’s perfectly normal. I’m here to tell you: Nobody told me being a #SAHM could feel lonely, but it can, and it does sometimes. So there…I told you.
Try to get involved with projects, or your kids’ school, call your bestie and plan a weekly lunch, or maybe start a fitness routine. Anything to help you disconnect and regroup.
I just have to figure out my balance. But I’m hopeful that one day there will be a happy & healthy balance between home, kids, relationships & social life! That exists right?!