Nobody Told Me It Could Feel Lonely…

September 11, 2016

Being a stay-at-home mom is both a blessing & a privilege.
It is my greatest work everyday. I wouldn’t change being at home with my boys for anything. However, did anyone ever tell you how lonely being a stay-at-home mom could feel sometimes?

Nobody told me.
There are days that I barley speak to another adult (other than my husband, or the cashier at the grocery store). Sometimes I almost forget to turn off the “baby talk!” When I do get to speak to another adult, I feel… invigorated. Mostly that’s talking to my personal trainer 3 days per week, but hey, it’s great, I’ll take it! Oh, then when I finally have a lunch with a girlfriend or my sister, I’m over the moon happy!

The point is…We as mother’s can’t feel guilty for feeling lonely, or wanting something more. That’s a big reason I started blogging. To feel connected to other women and to have a creative outlet. I also love working out now – go figure! I’ve been consistent with my fitness since February, and got a personal trainer in April. Working out is my therapy. We need to disconnect from our home life for just a little while. We need that “me time,” or girls night out, or a weekly date night.
Isn’t it funny that I have been a mother for 3 1/2 years, and I’m still trying to find myself? I think I go through stages where the “loneliness” doesn’t bother me at all. It’s probably because I’m on mom auto-piolet mode. You know, just when things are so busy I don’t really have time to think. But then other times, the feeling of loneliness sets in. I know some of you may think, “oh come on! how can you be lonely when you’re around your kids all day?” Well, it’s not that kind of lonely. Like I said, I love being a stay-at-home-mom. It’s just about missing the connection with other adults regularly. Think about it…pre-kids, I was here, there, everywhere! Traveling, going out & meeting people all the time, going to parties & events…it was schmooze – central for me, hahaha! I’m a people person & I miss that. After being blessed with beautiful little humans in my life, I think I just lost myself a little bit. And I can’t forget that by taking care of myself physically, mentally & emotionally ultimately helps all of us. It helps me be a better mom, wife & friend.

If you feel the same way, I just wanted you to know that you’re not alone. It’s perfectly normal. I’m here to tell you: Nobody told me being a #SAHM could feel lonely, but it can, and it does sometimes. So there…I told you.

Try to get involved with projects, or your kids’ school, call your bestie and plan a weekly lunch, or maybe start a fitness routine. Anything to help you disconnect and regroup.
I just have to figure out my balance. But I’m hopeful that one day there will be a happy & healthy balance between home, kids, relationships & social life! That exists right?!

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9 Items I must Travel With | Beauty & Fashion

9 ITEMS I MUST TRAVEL WITH | FASHION + BEAUTY

August 04, 2016

9 Items I must Travel With | Beauty & Fashion

Sony a5100 | Adidas Sneakers | Bose Headphones | Dry Shampoo | Cleansing Balm | Organic BB+ Cream | Perfect Fit Protein | Stila Liquid Lipstick | Modern Renaissance Eyeshadow Palette 

Lately I’ve been traveling a lot, so it got me thinking…”What are my must-haves right now for when I travel?”

I rummaged through my halfway unpacked bag ( I just got back from Charleston ), and found the items that I’ve consistently taken with me for my recent stay-cation and travels. Today I’ll be leaving with Tony to Turks & Caicos for my birthday week,  I will definitely be taking these products along!

9 Items I must Travel With | Beauty & FashionPetals And Pumps | Wearing Stila Liquid Lipstick in "Baci"

{ I’m wearing the Stila Stay All Day Liquid Lipstick in the shade, ‘Baci.’ }

Bose QuietComfort 35 Wireless Headphones | Petals And Pumps

{ The BEST headphones! }

Items I must Travel With | Petals And Pumps | Beauty & Fashion

{ The Sony a5100 Camera pictured above, is the ‘goldilocks’ of cameras. It’s not too big, not too small & user friendly. It’s a great camera for blogging! The photos in this post were taken with this camera, except for the first one and the last two. You can see the images are clear, crisp and bright. }

{ Stay All Day Liquid Lipstick in the shade, ‘Baci.’ }

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{ ABH Modern Renaissance Palette }

This travel-sized Moroccan Oil Dry Shampoo is awesome! No white residue. No funny smell. No Sticky hair. It’s great to use after I workout, a beach day, anytime I need to freshen up my hair. These ‘Stan Smith’ all white Adidas are my ultimate favorite right now. They are comfortable and cute! They go well with skirts, dresses and cut-off shorts too. The REN Cleansing Balm is great for melting down my makeup. It smells great and leaves my skin super clean. It is also good for all skin types and is NOT formulated with any of the yucky stuff like, parabens, sulphates, mineral oil or synthetic fragrance.

I LOVE these individual protein packets by Perfect Fit! I do try to get some workouts in when I’m away. So to make sure I get enough protein and fuel my body I have to have these! Perfect Protein is plant-based, organic, non-GMO and sugar-free. These packets are just so easy to travel with! I don’t like fussing too much with my makeup when I’m out-and-about. And  liquid lipstick stays on your lips for hours. Stila, in my opinion, makes one of the best liquid lipstick formulas. ‘Baci,’ is the perfect nude pink color and will go with any outfit. Finally, I can’t go anywhere without my Modern Renaissance palette! The shades and the formula of these eyeshadows are just so good!

Photo credit:  petalsandpumps.com | sephora.com 

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Current Favorite Organic Skin Care Products | Acure, Evan Healy + Coola

July 29, 2016

Favorite Organic Skin Care ProductsI’ve been using these products from 2-6 months. Long enough for me to see the difference in my skin and be able to talk about them with confidence.

These organic skin care products have become part of my everyday ritual.

What I LOVE about organic skincare, besides the obvious, better-for-your-skin answer. Is that these specific brands are not only better for your skin, but also for the planet, are cruelty-free, and chock-full of fresh & pure ingredients.

Evan Healy Sea Algae Serum

{ Sea Algae Serum, $39.95USD }

Just like the farm-to-table concept, Evan Healy incorporates a plant-to-skin sourcing philosophy. This brand works directly with farmers, plant distilleries & tribal villages. Not only to make wonderful hand-crafted beauty, but also to help sustain these villages, women + children, and farms. So essentially if you buy Evan Healy products, you’re not only going to have better, more beautiful skin, but you’ll be a part of something bigger!

This serum is MAGIC! Hands-down the best eye product I’ve tried so far. That’s a big statement coming from me. It has amazing ingredients such as:

…”fresh raspberry leaf extract, known for its skin firming effect, Hyaluronic acid, which holds moisture to skin forming a protective barrier. Seaweed, algae, and sea buckthorn berry oil combine to firm and nourish, Gotu Kola supports the body’s synthesis of collagen, and connective tissue maintenance…” (Click the link above to find out more about what these pure ingredients do)!

Though it has “serum” in its name, it has more of a milk consistency to me. It sinks directly into the skin, so I never have a greasy or thick creamy under-eye area, which you know is a nightmare to put concealer over! I also feel an almost instant firming feeling…every time. Which to me suggests it doesn’t lose its potency. And I’ve also noticed a brighter & firmer eye area. Seriously…THE BEST!

ACURE

{ Day Cream | Normal-Dry Skin | $16.99USD }

ACURE has quickly become another favorite of mine. This sustainable company similarly uses plant and food-based ingredients to get real results. ACURE’s Mission is simple- …”feeding your skin properly as you would your body internally is the only way to optimize its function…”

I use this day cream for those days that I know I’ll be staying in at home, or when I need that extra moisture. It has a lovely citrus scent. It can be worn day/night, and under make up too because although it’s very moisturizing, it is not thick or greasy feeling.

ACURE

{ Seriously Firming Facial Serum (oil), $19.99USD | Rosehip Oil, $10.99USD }

I started with these oils from the line first, and then I was hooked. After I saw and felt the difference of skin I was convinced to keep trying more from this brand. Besides my occasional hormonal break-outs, my skin has never looked more healthy.

I mix 1 drop of each oil into the palm of my hands, and apply these oils every day/night.

Rosehip oil balances the oils in your skin because of its low pH. It also contains essential fatty acids and vitamin E. The Seriously Firming Facial oil, contains rich antioxidants, organ oil, borage oil and cranberry. All of these ingredients work together to help revitalize the skin, restore moisture, soothe inflammation, and get rid of free radicals.

ACURE

{ Brightening Vegetable Peel, couldn’t find on websites. Use Facial Scrub. | Brightening Facial Scrub, $9.99USD }

I couldn’t find this peel anywhere, I’m sorry! BUT I found it at my local Whole Foods market. If you, can I suggest you look for it there. If you have sensitive skin and never got along with peels, then you must try this one. I found that It’s gentle, yet effective in brightening, clearing and smoothing my skins texture.

Okay, so I love using this scrub! It smells like kale & lemons- haha, but totally worth it (the natural scent doesn’t bother me)! It contains sea kelp and lemon peel to gently exfoliate your skin, and French green clay removes oil and impurities. My skin looks & feels squeaky clean after I use this 3 times a week. I’m ADDICTED! It’s good for all skin types.

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Deep Steep

{ Body Butter, $10.95USD }

Deep Steep, is one of my favorite go-to natural brands for the body. Specifically, I enjoy the Body Butter, Bubble Bath and Sugar Scrub. It’s like a luxurious treat when I use Deep Steep to take a bubble bath, or to moisturize my skin. The scents are beautiful and subtle. Never overpowering. (Deep Steep products are formulated with no phthalates, parabens or chemical preservatives. Non-GMO, gluten-free, 100% vegan and cruelty-free).

And finally, COOLA is my favorite plant-based, non-toxic sunscreen brand. Sunscreen, as you should already know, is important all-year-round. Not just in the summer.

COOLA Rösilliance Organic BB+ Cream

COOLA Organic Skin Care

{ BB+ CREAM, $52.00USD| Shade: Medium/Dark }

I have been blown-away by the Rōsilliance™ SPF 30 BB+ Cream. I’ve finally found the perfect everyday sunscreen for me! This moisturizer is lightly tinted. It has a lightweight serum texture, that just sinks beautifully into my skin. I notice it also helps even my skin tone and it also gives my skin a hydrated glow.

{ ALL PRODUCTS MENTIONED CAN FOUND AT WHOLE FOODS MARKET, EXCEPT COOLA. COOLA PRODUCTS CAN BE FOUND AT SEPHORA, ULTA, NORDSTROM AND COOLASUNCARE.com }

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Reflecting on life with 2 toddler boys

July 25, 2016

Now that my littlest will be turning 2 in just a few short weeks, has got me thinking a lot about being a mommy to these two loves of my life.♥mom, motherhood, toddler, toddlers, kids, parents

{ L→R: Mason, Liam }

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{ Baby Mason turning 2 on August 21st! }

I’ve been thinking a lot about my job as a mom lately… These sort of thoughts/questions have crossed my mind, like:
How am I doing thus far with these two?
What could I do to be a better parent?
Gosh, how time is just flying by!
What am I cooking for dinner?
Liam starting pre-k in a few weeks….whaaaat!?
How am I going to handle the first day, or even first week of pre-k?!
What new memories should we, as a family be making?
How will I schedule my days with one child in school now?
How could I make my time with Mason special while his brother is in school?
Am I ready for baby #3? Yes, I said THREE!!
I’m so tired.
I need a manicure. ha-ha!
How can I manage my time better?


Ok… so that list should give you an idea of the GAZILLION thoughts running through my head everyday.

First off, I feel like I’ve been thinking this way mostly because I’m coming into a new chapter in my life: Mason turning 2 & Liam starting school. Both are BIG to me!
I know most moms have these similar thoughts too. As a stay-at-home-mom { #SAHM }, I think I can be pretty critical of myself. Am I doing enough? Am I doing too much? Should I just leave all that mess in the kitchen and worry about it later? Should I take a shower now or later? Did I read, play or laugh enough with the kids today?
Was I too impatient? Did I lose my cool too much? How come Liam keeps hitting his brother? Am I doing time-outs correctly?

Obviously there’s no perfect guide to parenting book, otherwise I’d be all over it (all parents would). Everyday is different. Everyday is a struggle. Someday’s are great + someday’s are…well, just crappy! Even with help during the week.
I know all I can do is my best, bust sometimes let’s face it, my best feels like, WTF AM I DOING?!IMG_7443

And then you factor in that I’m trying to keep up with my fitness, look half way decent for my husband, cook dinner and everything else that goes in to keeping a marriage happy & a house a home. And of course that precious little thing called ALONE TIME. You remember, the time you can have to do whatever the hell you want! Every mother I’m sure can relate.

As a parent you get certain things down. And the rest of the time you’re just flying by the seat of your pants – haha!IMG_7261

{ Mother’s Day 2016. My hubby Anthony, me & the boys♥ }

So long as my kids are healthy + happy, I will keep trying my best, (even when my best isn’t good enough). Parenting is the greatest challenge EVER, but with the best kind of reward. These beautiful, perfect little humans you created will one day function in society as kind, polite, generous, smart, capable people. I learn so much about myself as the days, weeks, and years pass as a mom than ever before. What else can I really do? Just take it day-by-day. Remember to take little snap shots in my head and store those memories away. Take the challenges as they come. And pray I (we) don’t mess up too badly along the way! IMG_8043IMG_7744IMG_7848

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